I'm in the mood of writing a motivational (hopefully), lovey dovey, emotional post now. So excuse me, please.
Okay so let's just face it, people... You just have to go through these two things in life. Or if you're lucky, you'll be exempted from the second one; break up. Or break ups. A break up is very painful, I just learnt. So well yeah, do consider yourself lucky if you haven't been through one.
How long did it actually took to forget someone? As in forget completely. I shall say, it depends.
It depends on how you reacted to the break up. Okay fine, so the relationship ended. The first thing to do is to let it out... Don't keep it to yourself because later you'll be so stressed out that you explode. Explode BIG TIME.
So, seek advice and consultation from whom you trust.
Some advices I received:
"He didn't deserve you. You are way better! You can get a better one... Don't worry."
"Ala kau relax aje..."
"Mesti ada hikmahnya tu..."
And somehow, I kind of agreed with this one:
"Kau swim lah banyak mana pun, ubatnya satu je. Cari orang lain."
You have to know it's not that easy to find another one, though...
The BEST advice came from the one and only quirky mum:
"Ala tak apa Tiah... Kawan-kawan Afif (my elder brother) tu ramai je yang nak kan Tiah dari dulu..."
Heh. Yeah right, Mak... Whatever~
Okay come on, serious serious. *Ahem*
THE BEST advice from a mother:
"Tuhan dah sediakan yang lebih baik tu sebenarnya."
Mum also said:
"It's not a matter of who ended it. When a relationship ends, it's an agreement between both sides."
Because I've noticed this one scenario. When a person breaks up, the one question that would be asked was:
"Who breaks it off?" or "Siapa yang minta putus dulu?"
The perception most people had in mind is it's better if we're the one who asked to end it because by then we wouldn't lose our dignity. If the other person asked to end the relationship, it's as if like you're being dumped or rejected. WRONG.
You're not a loser if your partner asked for a break up. And no, I'm not saying this just because I got dumped.
Like mum said, "A relationship ends with the agreement of both sides."